#bressure

Can we all just stop creating these huge divides between the routes we take as parents in raising our kids?

Today Channel Mum have released a new campaign where they are calling out for bloggers to share how they feel about the way they feed their babies, as it as come to light that 1% of babies are being breastfed and mothers who bottle feed feel an intense pressure (coined #bressure) to breastfeed as #brelfies are becoming more popular.

I breastfeed my 9 month old son and at no point during my pregnancy did I feel pressured into doing so. I did this because I (and only I, I know that a lot of my family and friends would have preferred me to bottle feed) wanted to. Simple as that. Even though there were a few people who would recite those terrible words ‘Breast is best’.

I believe the NHS’ ‘Breast is Best’ campaign is completely outdated and causes more harm than good. Medical professionals should only persuade a mother one way or another if it is medically necessary. If you wish to breastfeed they should help you in any way they can before resorting to formula, but on that same line, formula should never be seen as just the back up plan. It is a second option, one which is just as good for babies as breast milk otherwise babies would not survive on it.

Breastfeeding groups are also making matters worse. Isolating a group of mums based on a decision not only makes it elitist and unfair for those who choose to bottle feed, it also puts even more pressure on the mums who eventually pluck up the courage to attend by making them feel like they have to breastfeed for a certain length of time or in a certain way. It instills a sense of superiority and it isn’t right.

There is no route into raising kids you can take without a few bumps in the road. You will always offend somebody and those who comment are usually the people who know very little on the subject. Women who bottle feed should not be made to feel judged or guilty because they either chose formula or had to swap to formula, just like women who breast feed should not be made to feel like they are doing something wrong because they have to pull out a boob when their baby is hungry.

There should only be pride. We are somehow managing to keep our kids healthy and happy and if we want to share photos with the world or tell people about it, we should be able to without feeling ashamed or worried that the recipient will take it negatively. How I feed my baby is not a concern of yours or a comment on how you should feed yours. No more guilt or prejudice, just lots of happy, milk drunk babies whether its powdered or direct from source.

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Spread love and milk guys. ✌ 💘

E x

Losing weight

If you don’t know me, you don’t know how much of a fan I am of Slimming World.

Before I was pregnant with Tobes, I managed to lose four and a half stone in just over a year with their Food Optimising plan, but then I decided I didn’t want the extra pressure of trying to lose weight while obviously gaining it growing a human and parted ways. After Christmas I decided I wanted to get back on track and rejoined, this time going to a different group but with the same Consultant.

I’m losing weight steadily (1st 12lbs in 15 weeks as of today), but I want to speed up that process a little because Toby’s birthday is fast approaching and I want to be able to look back on the photos with pride rather than embarrassment.

So in an effort to get into gear, I have devised a plan to add extra incentive (because health reasons just aren’t enough!) which I will share with you.

At each stone award I will treat myself to things I don’t usually buy, such as:

2st lost award: New hairstyle.
3st lost award: New pair of jeans/jeggings and a manicure.
4st lost award: New pyjamas and a new dress.
5st lost award: A new pair of shoes and a pedicure.
Target: New underwear, a set of digital scales to weigh at home and my first ever bikini.

For the last couple of weeks I’ve been so close to getting my 2st award, and since I’ve had a holiday from weigh in this week, I’m going to work extra hard to get those last 2 little pounds off so I can get a nice cut and colour! It definitely helps to have something else to work towards.

Here’s hoping next week I’ll be able to post about my new hair!

E x

Becoming a Stay at Home Mum.

Today is the day my maternity leave ends. But instead of having to go through the awful feeling of leaving Toby with someone else I while I go to work, I am lucky enough to be able to not go back at all.

Although a lot of people would say that this is a luxury and I should be really pleased, this actually brings about a lot of feelings I didn’t realise I would have until very recently.

You see, we are living in a culture that aims to keep the economy running so telling people you’re choosing to raise a child over going back to work is relatively unheard of. So because of this, it is often met with lots of questions and preconceptions.

You may have read recently an article that featured a blog post written by Mike of Daddy Fishkins about what its like to be a stay at home parent. So many people seem to have this idea that stay at home parents pretty much spend every day in their PJs, lazing around and watching TV with their kid(s) and often their partners buy into this idea, so when they come home from work and dinner isn’t on the table or the house isn’t as sparkly clean as it should be, they wonder what they actually got up to and why they didn’t have time to have everything done.

Well, granted, I’m not sat at a desk all day and when we have a particularly bad night from teething or whatnot, we have the luxury of spending the next day catching up on sleep but my job doesn’t stop. I don’t ever get a break. Even trips to the toilet are rushed and spent listening out for any moments of upset or I have company in the bathroom. My job starts the moment I wake and I am still clocked in long after I go to bed at night. I’m unpaid (I don’t know about you but dirty nappies are NOT a legitimate currency in my opinion) and my job description requires so much more than the title suggests: cleaner, chef, entertainer, nurse (to name a few).

I know, this all sounds very “Woe is me” so I just want to mention that I love my new job. I feel like I’m actually pretty good at my new job. Each week I get promoted to a new role with more responsibility and areas to oversee. 8 months ago I was looking after a feeding, crying, pooping machine, today I am looking after a little boy who has broadened his horizons by way of crawling and can communicate through “brrrrrrr” noises. It truly is the best job I’ve ever had.

I’d love to get to know other stay at home parents and the responses they get.

Must go, I require at least an hour’s sleep per night.

E+T x.